Thursday, 2 July 2015

Finding Fulfilment & Purpose as a Coach in South Africa

Finding Fulfilment & Purpose as a Youth Coach in South Africa - By Sam McDonald

When I moved to South Africa, I was full of ambition. After completing a PR Diploma and going on to work in marketing, my career was not living up to my expectations. I moved into owning my own small businesses and worked in my husband's IT business in sales and social media. I'd often wondered what I would do with all my experience as I felt like a ‘jack of all trades, master of none’ kind of person.  That first day of Coach training in London, everything fell into place. 
I have spent years focusing on what is positive in life and have become what I like to call, a cynical optimist (apparently Steve Jobs was one too).  It is this focusing of my thoughts, together with The Coaching Academy training, which has given me the tools to coach. It was important for me to have an international presence, as I love travel. I now coach people in many different countries and absolutely love it. 
Many people live unhappy, unfulfilling lives, because they buy into the lie that what they were born into, is where they have to stay. I encourage people into believing you can be anything you put your mind to, if you’re prepared to put in the effort.  If I come across someone who cannot afford coaching fees, I will happily coach pro-bono if I can see they are focused. That said, it is not always those people who are born into opulence that make the most out of their lives. I received a desperate message recently from a child attending one of the top private schools requesting my help.
A youth client I coached lost both his parents when he was much younger. He is a very ambitious young man who had hopes and dreams of one day opening his own business. I began coaching him in February 2015. He walked many kilometres to attend his session each week. He is very mature for his age and therefore is very open to understanding the coaching process. He was born into the previously disadvantage environment in South Africa, and we have worked together to uncover his fears and habits, teach him why it is important to have goals that fit in with his values, and assisted in raising an awareness of his limiting beliefs and, of course, raising his own self-awareness. This has resulted in him setting concrete goals, which he is working hard to achieve, to moving him from where he is today, to the dream he sees in his mind’s eye. I was thrilled at our last meeting to discover he has just registered and started his own small business distributing Stationery. 
I also coach small business owners as this comes naturally to me, but one of my niches is young people, from the time they are making their important subject choices to deciding which career they want to move into. Most parents and children are at a loss at this time in their children's lives.  I help coordinate the Catechism classes for children from the local boarding schools and over time I have come to recognise some of the challenges faced by young people, as well as knowing this from my own up-bringing and raising my own teenagers. I want to guide and inspire young people to recognise their talents, understand their personality types (using tools such as Disc Profiling), and believe in their abilities, so they can differentiate themselves from the thousands of other young people and set amazing, achievable goals. I’m hoping to give motivational talks at schools regarding the wonderful potential of incorporating coaching into your life from a young age.  
You can find out more about Sam on her business facebook page 

Friday, 17 April 2015

" You have all the answers "

Coaching Testimony by Sbo F. Mahlase

Those are the five words Sam McDonald said to me, that changed how I viewed, and thought about life.

Too often in life we fail to give ourselves a compliment, no matter how well we have done. Or we get too comfortable with our lives and forget about our goals and dreams or we do not know or might not even have goals and dreams.

for  "The poorest man is not without a cent, but without a dream."

Let's face it, we all need that little tap in the shoulder or even a push. Just one afternoon when I was coming from church, I got a lift from a very generous woman. I didn't know that lift was a tap on my shoulder and was going to change my life for the better. Sam McDonald - Life and Business Coach.

We had a chat and she invited me to a coaching session- never in my life had I ever thought I would use a Life Coach. At first I had mixed emotions about going - I was reluctant and happy at the same time. At the back of my mind I was like - I need a job not a coaching. 
If I look back at my life before the coaching and look at it now, there is a huge difference. The coaching has done a lot for me and changed my life for the better. I've learned so many things that I didn't know about life. I used to be so negative and I gave up very easily. Sometimes in life we chase what we "want" not what we "need". Some things I learned during my sessions:

Always be positive
Do not get too comfortable (comfort zone)
Beware of society’s influences
Know goals and dreams
Turn negative thoughts into positive
Proper planning
Giving yourself a compliment
Make wise decisions

Thank you to Sam for giving me a once in a life time opportunity to re-arrange my life, if it wasn't for her, I would have probably given up on life. Thank you for that tap on the shoulder. I know sometimes it wasn't just a tap when I became too comfortable, but rather an assertive push. That push has taught me a lot.
 When you fall - don't look where you hurt, but where you slipped.

The coaching has helped me not to look where I fell, but where I slipped, and taught me to confidently get up, dust myself down, and continue with my journey, and still I walk now under the guidance of the coaching from Sam McDonald.
 Thank you so very much and my God bless you!

The choices you make today are your future.  I had to make a decision to go or not to go, and eventually a decision was made. I am going. It's amazing how things you take for granted, end up bearing the most precious fruits.

The sessions I attended have changed a lot about my life. I feel there is this light that is shining on me, and I now challenge myself every day to implement what I've learned so far.